Love the One You’re With

I don’t mean settle. I mean truly love the one you’re with. Research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman shows that leaning in and expressing love even when it’s difficult to do so is a powerful relationship building tool that can pay dividends well beyond the effort it entails.  Picture that it’s the end of the day and you’re tired from work, family obligations, household to-do’s, etc. (Did I just describe your life?) All you want is quiet time, lights out, no more demands on your brain or body.

But your partner has an issue to vent about, a question, a request. Something small, though it feels like a lot right now. If you lean in, really listen, give your partner a little extra time and attention at just the moment when they need it, then you get to go to bed spooning instead of facing opposite directions. You’ve made a deposit in the savings bank of relationship goodwill. You’ve strengthened your connection instead of added another line item to the grievance list.

Give it a try, but don’t go it alone. Share this Health Tip with your partner, so you can lean in toward each other and reaffirm how much you Love the One You’re With.